Everyone loves a confident speaker, and everyone loves to be a confident speaker. So you find all sorts of tricks of the trade—breathing techniques, power poses, eye contact, and so on—that can help you to become this sort of speaker. In many cases, though, these tricks only help you to seem more confident. But is this the only way to think about it? Let’s try a mindset shift. Let’s replace “everyone loves a confident speaker” with “everyone loves a loving speaker.” You’re a loving speaker not when you connect with your audience, but when you feel one with the audience—you and your audience are part of the same community. You’re…